SELF-RESPECT!
What is more important than love, honesty, integrity and dignity?? Its self-respect in “any relationship”. Relationships are meant to be easy and happy be it with your partner, parents, siblings, colleagues or friends. I am an overly sensitive, overly caring and an over thinking cancerian. It is extremely difficult for a person like me to draw a line in relationships. Sometimes I wonder, what is the harm in helping, caring or even reaching out to a person out of love? Well, its absolutely fine to do so but not to an extent where you start feeling worthless, miserable and horrible. Love is the most powerful emotion that can enhance or destroy someone. But it isn’t the only feeling needed to keep a relation intact. Sometimes you give all your time and put your energy into something and someone leaving your important chores behind, thinking he or she will value your time and love, but what you receive is disrespect due to hours of verbal fight. Why do you want to waste your valuable seconds with toxic people? Flush them out the minute they lash out on you or set a boundary where they realise that you aren’t a doormat.
POINTERS PEOPLE!
ACCEPT AND LOVE YOURSELF
Firstly, you need to accept and love yourself for who you are. Accept your flaws, appreciate your positives and motivate yourself. As long as you do this, you will never feel rotten inside.
RESPECT YOUR BOUNDARIES
Do not let anyone use you just because you place their needs before yours. A big NO to that. If they matter to you, balance the situation in such a way that both of you are equally happy.
STOP OVER APOLOGIZING
Never ever apologize for something you haven’t done just to avoid tiffs. This shows lack of maturity when the other person should be ready to talk and resolve the issue like an adult.
RESPECT YOUR DREAMS AND BELIEFS
You should never step back from your beliefs just because the other person doesn’t value it. Never forget your roots, focus on your goals more by being independent. It doesn’t make you a selfish person. Don’t lose yourself in the process of being there for others.
MISTREATMENT
Oh! You might believe that this is ok, but trust me that’s self-destruction. Instead you need to believe that you deserve much more. You deserve to be happy, loved, cared, respected equally as others. Show the courage to say NO.
If you think that helping yourself grow and outshine will make you lose a few people in life? Let it be. That is in fact a confirmation in knowing that they never believed in you or understood you as a person for who you truly are. Never consume negativity. Walk away from such situations or people. You are enough. Like I said, believe in yourself that you deserve the right amount of respect and love. Embrace the inner you and witness the miracles.
